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My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby FrancoisDuboisSJ » 07 Aug 2012, 16:15

In my introduction I laid out all of the particulars of my lifestyle. I am a 61-year-old, retired naval officer not given to flights of fancy.

My best friend, Bert, died April 10, 2011. His was a long, painful, lingering death. At the time, I was also thought to be dying from recurring pulmonary embolisms. I was a patient in the Hospice house of Hintington WV. From the time Bert died, I felt his presence; there were many times I thought I saw him out of the corner of my eye. He never spoke or appeared to me as an apparition--except in my dreams, and I tended to discount that as active phenomena. Eight months after Bert died, on December 8, 2011, Bert came into my room and told me to get up and pack for home. It was not, he told me, my time to die. December 8 was Bert's birthday.

Since then I have noted some 15-16 "visits." Bert's visits are enveloped in the color blue. He is a boy at times, a man at other times. He answers questions that are in my mind but not asked. Are these visits due to the fact that I so want to see him again. Is there unfinished business (although, for the life of me, I cannot think of anything we left unsaid or undone)?

If these are truly survuval phenomenon, should I tell his widow and children?
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby NinjaPuppy » 07 Aug 2012, 20:29

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote:In my introduction I laid out all of the particulars of my lifestyle. I am a 61-year-old, retired naval officer not given to flights of fancy.

My best friend, Bert, died April 10, 2011. His was a long, painful, lingering death. At the time, I was also thought to be dying from recurring pulmonary embolisms. I was a patient in the Hospice house of Hintington WV. From the time Bert died, I felt his presence; there were many times I thought I saw him out of the corner of my eye. He never spoke or appeared to me as an apparition--except in my dreams, and I tended to discount that as active phenomena. Eight months after Bert died, on December 8, 2011, Bert came into my room and told me to get up and pack for home. It was not, he told me, my time to die. December 8 was Bert's birthday.

Dreams can be a wonderful thing and most times extremely perplexing.

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote:Since then I have noted some 15-16 "visits." Bert's visits are enveloped in the color blue. He is a boy at times, a man at other times. He answers questions that are in my mind but not asked. Are these visits due to the fact that I so want to see him again. Is there unfinished business (although, for the life of me, I cannot think of anything we left unsaid or undone)?

Who can say 'why' your friend Bert appears in your dreams. I'm sure that depending on which camp a person is in, they might offer some answer according to their way of thinking. There are many dream analysis books and websites that might give you a start to try and make some sense out your dreams. There's also a chance that there is a psychological explanation for some of this as well. Then there is always that part that just can't be explained.

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote:If these are truly survuval phenomenon, should I tell his widow and children?

That is something only you can decide.
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby ProfWag » 07 Aug 2012, 20:44

Just to be clear, Bert is no longer appearing in your dreams but is appearing while you're awake whereas before he was in your dreams or is he still appearing in your dreams?
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Postby NinjaPuppy » 07 Aug 2012, 20:53

ProfWag wrote:Just to be clear, Bert is no longer appearing in your dreams but is appearing while you're awake whereas before he was in your dreams or is he still appearing in your dreams?

Thanks for asking that ProfWag. I was wondering the same thing. Not that it makes a difference to me as I accept either situation.
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby FrancoisDuboisSJ » 07 Aug 2012, 21:09

"Physical" Bert does not appear to me in any way during the day when I am awake. There are times when I catch glimpses of him as tho out of the corners of my eyes. Those occasions are very rare and always, always accompanied by the sensation of "blue" for lack of a better description.

In my dreams, Bert appears in many forms, as a small boy as he appeared when we met; as a teenager, when he and I were inseperable; as an adult, before he became ill. Each time I dream about Bert there is no sense of disconnect, the events are time/space/content oriented.

This is very difficult to talk about and here is why. Ten days ago I met a woman on line who told me she was a powerful leader of a Wicca coven. I told her about Bert and what was going on. She asked me many of the same questions you all have asked. I gave her precise answers and she said she would gaze on it. A couple of days later, she told me "there was no Bert, that I was making him up to impress her &c &c." She also said there was no color blue, and she knew this because she had tapped into "forces." Frankly, I think she tapped into ergot laced Irish beer!

I don't know how many more times I can tell this story.

But please, tell me what is significant is how and when he appears (other than a psychotic break)?
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby NinjaPuppy » 07 Aug 2012, 21:42

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote:This is very difficult to talk about and here is why. Ten days ago I met a woman on line who told me she was a powerful leader of a Wicca coven.

So, you met a self proclaimed "powerful leader" of a Wicca coven on line? Hmmmmm. I've met MORE than a few followers of Wicca in my time but these "leaders" tend to call themselves a "High Priestess" but of course there are MANY different variations of Wicca nowadays, so what do I know? Followers of Wicca are not supposed to nitpick traditions but I personally tend to shy away from the New Age, showy, goth addled types who outwardly display control issues.

One of our members, 'Craig Browning' can probably give you a better explanation of this than I can and I'm sure that he will correct my above statement if I'm off course here. If he doesn't pop in shortly, I'll PM him and ask him to give us his two cents on this subject.

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote: A couple of days later, she told me "there was no Bert, that I was making him up to impress her &c &c." She also said there was no color blue, and she knew this because she had tapped into "forces." Frankly, I think she tapped into ergot laced Irish beer!

I think you may be right.

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote:I don't know how many more times I can tell this story.

You can tell it as many times as you need to. That is always up to you.

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote:But please, tell me what is significant is how and when he appears (other than a psychotic break)?

From what little bit of detail that you have provided, what "psychotic break"? These are dreams. Here's a WebMD link: http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/fe ... -they-mean, that has a good intro to dreams:
Sigmund Freud's theory was that your dreams are an expression of what you're repressing during the time you are awake. And Carl Jung believed that dreams provide messages about "lost" or "neglected" parts of our selves that need to be reintegrated. Many dreams simply come from a preoccupation with the day's activities. But some offer rich, symbolic expressions -- an interface between the conscious and the unconscious that can fill in the gaps of our self-knowledge and provide information and insight.
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby ProfWag » 08 Aug 2012, 00:32

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote:But please, tell me what is significant is how and when he appears (other than a psychotic break)?

From what I know, you are experiencing something quite common and nothing to feel "psychotic" over. You're quite normal. Be happy that you can actually visit with your friend as it's not something all of us can do.
I'm not sure I would mention it to Berts' family however. You never know how they might take that kind of news.

Now, if you want to ask me if I think your experience is paranormal? Well, I won't answer that unless asked.
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby FrancoisDuboisSJ » 08 Aug 2012, 09:49

Sorry, it's been a long day. No, I'm fairly certain I am not a psychotic, but then, you know what they say about people who believe they're sane.

And yes, I'm, here for answers. But I am not at all certain wha tis going on; I'm certain that I am not visiting Bert. But I do know that Janine, Jannie and Sam would want to know. Janine knows how close Bert and I were throughout our lives. I was on the phoone with her when he passed. But I have not spoken to her for months now (I'm a jerk).

Please, by all means. You could not possibly shake me up more than the Wicca lady.
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby ProfWag » 08 Aug 2012, 21:02

Let's just say that the mind is an amazing thing and can do all sorts of things and often times, it's without realizing it.

Unfortunately, I don't believe in spirits so from my perspective, I doubt that he's actually visiting, however, if it makes you feel comfortable and he's not harming you in any way, by all means enjoy the experience. My guess is, however, that you are feeling guilty about not contacting his family for quite some time and it's invoking a memory and perhaps it's your subconscious mind telling you that you really do need to check in with them to see how they're doing. My thoughts only.
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Postby NinjaPuppy » 09 Aug 2012, 00:48

ProfWag - Excellent post.
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby FrancoisDuboisSJ » 09 Aug 2012, 03:14

That is extremely insightful and I am feeling guilty about not contacting them. I will do it today, without fail.

Nonetheless, I grew up in the Appalachian Mountains. My father was a great believer in spirits; as were many of my family members. Me, I was so agnostic I chose not to consider spirit survival. Now I am not so certain; I've seen too much to rule out whatever it might "be." From my experience I can tell you what I do not believe. What I am having difficulty with is what I cannot explain.

You know the drill: Eliminate the impossible and whatever is left, however improbable, is true.
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby ProfWag » 10 Aug 2012, 21:18

FrancoisDuboisSJ wrote:You know the drill: Eliminate the impossible and whatever is left, however improbable, is true.

My teachings say that nothing is impossible so eliminating the impossible would be quite difficult.
As a type of experiment, I would love to know if he still shows up after you speak with his family.
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Re: My best friend died yet is visiting me

Postby SydneyPSIder » 13 Sep 2012, 15:27

ProfWag wrote:Let's just say that the mind is an amazing thing and can do all sorts of things and often times, it's without realizing it.

Unfortunately, I don't believe in spirits so from my perspective, I doubt that he's actually visiting, however, if it makes you feel comfortable and he's not harming you in any way, by all means enjoy the experience. My guess is, however, that you are feeling guilty about not contacting his family for quite some time and it's invoking a memory and perhaps it's your subconscious mind telling you that you really do need to check in with them to see how they're doing. My thoughts only.

hmm, oh well, you're going to get a shock when you die. My major questions are whether all of us leave a spirit when we die, or just some of us, and where the majority of spirits go to hang out.

There's lots of hard evidence of spirits out there, even for people without second sight -- photographs, physical movement of objects, opening and closing of doors, etc.
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